Ideas & Ways of Healing When You’re Ready
– Talk to Chaplain, Pastor, Spiritual Leader, etc……
– Support Groups
– EMDR Therapy
– Give Back
– Tapping Therapy
– Seek to learn about Spirituality and/or the Afterlife
– Reading Books
– Grief Therapy/Counseling
-Facebook Grief Groups
– Motivational Speakers
The Mourner’s Bill of Rights
1. You have the right to experience your own unique grief.
2. You have the right to talk about your grief.
3. You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions.
4. You have the right to be tolerant of you physical and emotional limits.
5. You have the right to experience “grief bursts.”
6. You have the right to make use of ritual.
7. You have the right to embrace your spirituality.
8. You have the right to search for meaning.
9. You have the right to treasure your memories.
10. You have the right to move toward your grief and heal.
LETTER FOR PARENTS
A grieving mother with PTSD fell into a hole and couldn’t get out. When a family member walked by the grieving mother called out for help, but the family member yelled back, “Suck it up, dig deep and drive on,” then threw her a shovel. The grieving mother did as she was told and dug that hole deeper.
A friend went by and the grieving mother called out for help again. The friend told her “use the tools your family has given you”, then threw her a bucket. The grieving mother used the tools and she dug the hole deeper still and filled the bucket.
A psychiatrist walked by. The grieving mother called, “Help! I can’t get out!” so the psychiatrist gave her some drugs and said, “Take this. It will relieve the pain and you will forget about the hole.” The grieving mother said “thanks” and followed his advice, but when the pills ran out she was still in the hole.
A well-known psychologist rode by and heard the grieving mothers cries for help. He stopped and asked, “How did you get there? Were you born there? Did your parents put you there? Tell me about yourself, it will alleviate your sense of loneliness.” So the grieving mother talked with him for an hour, then the psychologist had to leave, but he said he’d be back next week. The grieving mother thanked him, but she was still in the hole.
Another Grieving Parent , just like her, happened to be passing by. The grieving mother with PTSD cried out, “Hey, help me. I’m stuck in this hole!” and right away the other Grieving parent jumped down in there with her. The grieving mother with PTSD started to panic and said, “What are you doing? Now we’re both stuck down here!” But the other Grieving parent just smiled and replied, “It’s okay, calm down, my fellow angel parent. I’ve been here before….. I know how to get out.”
No matter what you’re going through, you are never alone.
But don’t be too proud to SHOUT OUT!, ‘HELP I’m stuck in this Hole’ ……
We all get stuck in a hole from time to time but all it takes is to ask your fellow grieving parents for help and we will be there even if we have to jump in that hole with you.
Written by another grieving mother.
Always remember we are all in this together and you are never alone.
But most of all ~Love is Forever~
“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”~ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross